My daughter is now all registered for soccer, she has her audition for the school news channel anchor position and she has decided to run for student council! What does all this mean? More work for me! But it's ok, I want her to be a well rounded young lady and as long as she maintains her perfect grades then it's all good.
Now to finally jump in with the blog challenges from The Red Lilly.....today's topic was:
Attached at the hip? Two Peas in a Pod? How did you meet your s.o./best friend? Tell us about that first time meeting them. Did you hit it off instantly or think they were stalking you?
I would have to talk about my closest friend Nikki. We actually met online...on a message board for cruising. She and another girl (let's see, I will call her Sha-Na-Na to protect her innocent children - lol) were going on their first cruise and I was going on my 3rd. It just so happened we were going to be on the same ship (one I had been on before) and they had tons of questions so we e-mailed back and forth the months leading up to the cruise. They lived in New Jersey and I was in Massachusetts at the time. We agreed that we would meet up the second night on board at one of the bars.
When I first met them, I actually did not take to Nikki right off. I mean I had nothing against her and did not dislike her or anything. I guess I felt I had more in common with Sha-Na-Na at the time as far as our lives were concerned. We didn't really hang out on the cruise though we ran into each other here and there. When we got back the three of us continued to e-mail and talk on the phone though once again I spoke more with Sha-Na-Na than with Nikki. I even went to Jersey a couple of times to hang out and helped with Sha-Na-Na baby shower. Over time, I got to see just how truly disturbed and unstable Sha-Na-Na was...ok the ho was straight crazy! Stalking, a tripping and just barely walking this side of the law most of the time and dragging her 2 boys into all kinds of mess and leaving them places while she went stalking her latest man.
And I started backing off from her but Nikki and her had been friends for awhile so they stayed friends and I was kinda on the fringes though Nikki and I started talking more and more. Finally there was a major blow up between me and Sha-Na-Na and I just left that whole situation alone....I can turn on the TV for a daily dose of drama, did not need it from her. Soon after she and Nikki also parted ways. Nikki and I kept in contact though it was more like we would talk once a month or so..of if things were hopping or we were real bored we talked more often. But we always stayed friends and everytime we spoke no matter if it has been 4 days or 4 weeks since our last conversation, we always picked it right back up as if the time had never passed.
Then I got married...I will spare us both the details and she was my travel agent for the whole wedding ( got married in the Bahamas) and she was one of my bride's maids. Then she got married a few years later and let me tell you everything conspired against me returning the favor. I was in a car accident that August ( she got married that November) which totaled my car and tore muscles in my shoulders, neck and back and herniated a disc. I was out of work for 2 months. I was a bride's maid and a month before the wedding I got pretty sick and ended up with an auto-immune disease that was attacking my skin. I ended up in the hospital the week before the wedding. I got out a couple of days before but my body was covered with gauze and padding due to the nasty sores and scars...and since the dress was this hot strapless number, I bowed out of being into he wedding and she totally understood. But it gets better....we drove to Orlando for the weekend since she was getting married at Disney. Teyonna had not been feeling great but I thought it was just a cold. Well the day of the wedding dawns bright and beautiful and low and behold, Tey is running a 104 fever and totally lethargic....had to rush her to the doc so I missed the wedding. Turns out Teyonna had scarlet fever! So then I had to call Nikki's mom at the reception to let her know since Tey had been around the other kids the day before. Nikki has never made me feel bad or guilty for missing her wedding. She has made a point of telling everyone that I did everything in my power to be there and went through a lot just to make it to the hotel. Gotta love her for that.
Well now I am divorced and she is filing for divorce and we are closer than ever and for the last 3 years or so we talk every single day, often several times a day. She has been down to Florida about 3 times a year to visit since my marriage ended and I just went up to Jersey for my bday this year...sounds unfair but let's face it...where would you rather spend your time? Trenton, NJ or Florida on the Gulf of Mexico? LOL so she is always ready to hop a plane down here. I am actually trying to get her to move here and she is trying to get transferred - watch out world! We are so much alike but so different that it works. Both very family oriented and do what needs to be done and put others before us but where I am a fireball, she is very calm. Where she is laid back I am a go getter. We support each other through the stupidest ideas - LOL and are always ready to ride or die - "He said/did what to you?? Let me take off my earrings and put on my ass kicking shoes."
It has been 10 years and my daughter calls her auntie Nikki and she is a part of my family - blood or no blood. I am closer to her than anyone and it proves that people get brought into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime and you never know which it is going to be unless you have the patience to wait and find out. And Nikki has proved that my patience was well rewarded and I could not ask for a better confidante and partner in crime. I just hope that I can live up to the blessing of our friendship. Love ya girl!
ol' crazy Nikki on 70's night
peace, love and hairgrease,
~CC
2 comments:
Sweet! I love your blog. My kindda friends. Fun, fun, fun!
WOW, what a story!
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